Femdom ideas & exciting ways to dominate a male sub

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While the male-dominated mainstream media typically portrays femdom as a taboo kink or sexual practice, the truth is that there is much more to it than that.

Femdom, or female domination, is a power dynamic between two consenting adults in which the woman takes on the dominant role and the man takes on the submissive role. This can manifest itself in a variety of different ways, from simple role-playing games in the bedroom to full-blown 24/7 lifestyle relationships.

Femdom relationships are built on trust, respect, and communication. The couple will typically negotiate their roles and boundaries beforehand so that everyone is on the same page and comfortable with what they’re doing.

From there, it’s all about exploring your power dynamic and finding what works for you. Some couples enjoy incorporating elements of BDSM, while others simply enjoy the psychological thrill of knowing that the woman is in charge. Findom, i.e., financial domination is also a form of female domination.

If you’re interested in exploring femdom in your own relationship, the most important thing to do is talk to your partner about it. It’s also a good idea to do some research on your own so that you have a better understanding of what it entails.

Once you have a good foundation, you can start experimenting and seeing what works for you. Remember, there are no hard and fast rules when it comes to femdom – it’s all about what makes you and your partner happy.

I have put together this list of Femdom ideas and exciting ways to dominate a male sub. Hopefully you will find some very useful ways and gives you some new ideas what to do with your sub and how to make your relationship even more exciting for both!

The best Femdom male sub humiliation ideas

Small Penis Humiliation

Small penis humiliation is exactly what it is called. Femdom humiliates a man’s small cock regardless of its size. It’s a very effective way to humiliate sub in the most cases as it takes quite a lot of manhood away from the sub.

Making male sub a sissy

A sissy is a person who dresses and behaves in a manner traditionally associated with the opposite sex. Sissies may be men who dress as women or women who dress as men. They may also be people who adopt characteristics of the opposite sex for erotic or aesthetic reasons.

Sissies may identify as transgender, cross-dressers, or simply as people who enjoy dressing and acting in a manner that is traditionally associated with the opposite sex. Whatever, requiring your male sub to dress like a sissy maid for example is a perfect way to humiliate most subs! Although, being a sissy may also be your partner’s secret desire!

Making male sub a cuckold

A cuckold male is a man who enjoys seeing his female partner engage in sexual activity with other men. He may derive pleasure from knowing that his partner is being unfaithful, or from the knowledge that she is enjoying herself sexually with someone else.

Cuckold males often enjoy feeling “left out” of the sexual activity, that’s perfect way to humiliate your male sub(s)!

Anal dildos

Let your subs hole feel the pressure and force them to use anal plugs or use a strap-on on their ass. Some subs like it, but for the most, it’s a humiliating experience. It’s also a bit painful if you require the sub to use a big enough plug or penetrate with a big dildo. However, many men have strap-on fantasies, so don’t be shy!

Piss play with sub

Piss play, also known as urolagnia, is a form of sexual fetishism that involves urine. This can take the form of urinating on someone else, being urinated on, or simply fantasizing about urine. People with this fetish may enjoy the smell, taste, or feel of urine. It’s easy to figure out how humiliating it may also be for some subs.

Chastity cage or belt

Lock your male sub on the chastity belt and make him desperate. Most subs feel wearing a chastity belt is also humiliating, especially if you require a sub to wear it always. That’s a good way also punish sub. Read The Beginner’s Guide to Chastity Play to get more ideas!

Spit on subs face

Although many subs may feel dominatrix spitting on their face or mouth also exciting, they feel it automatically also humiliating. So why not spit onto the floor, and require the sub to lick it clean, then spit on the face and ultimately on the mouth. Sub should learn the taste of Dominatrix!

The best ideas how to punish a male sub

Cock and Ball Torture (CBT)

Cock and ball torture, i.e., CBT femdom play is a popular form of BDSM play. It stands for Cock and Ball Torture, and involves the use of pain and/or sensation to the male genitalia. This can be done in a variety of ways, including but not limited to: using hands, using toys, using electrical stimulation and zip ties, needles, plugs etc.

Choking play

Choking play is a type of sexual activity that involves the restriction of oxygen to the brain. It is also called autoerotic asphyxiation. It can be accomplished by either holding someone’s breath or by constricting their airway for example using hand or hood.

Choking play is considered to be a form of edge play, which is any activity that carries a heightened risk of injury or death. So, know what you are doing before trying it!

Spanking and impact play

Spanking is a form of physical discipline in which someone is struck with an open hand or other object on the buttocks. It is usually done as a form of punishment, but can also be used as a form of erotic stimulation. Sure, if you spam subs ass hard enough it’s a form of punishment!

Denial of things or activities

It depends on the deepness of the femdom relationship, but denial of many things can be used effectively as a punishment. As a femdom, you can deny subs access to the phone, money, or even the toilet in addition to orgasms! Think about all the possibilities there are behind the word denial!

More femdom ideas

Here are a few more actual ideas and activities that a female dominant (femdom) can use to dominate a male submissive

Verbal Dominance

Use commanding language and a confident tone to assert control over the submissive. This can include giving orders, setting rules, or using degrading/humiliating language (if previously discussed and consented to).

Teasing and Denial

Engage in teasing the male submissive through sensual touch, dirty talk, or erotic scenarios, but withhold full gratification to build anticipation and desire.

Bondage

Use ropes, handcuffs, or restraints to physically restrict the submissive’s movement, reinforcing the power dynamic and allowing them to surrender control.

Roleplay Scenarios

Create roleplay scenarios (such as prison role play) where the dominant takes on various powerful roles (boss, teacher, nurse, etc.), and the submissive must obey their every command.

Foot and Body Worship

Demand the submissive to worship the dominant’s body, particularly feet, as a symbol of submission and adoration.

Chastity and Orgasm Control

Use chastity devices to control the submissive’s sexual release, allowing the dominant to dictate when, or if, they are allowed to orgasm. Chastity is very powerful way to dominate male sub! You can read form here how it feels to be locked on chastity.

Sensory Deprivation

Use sensory deprivation and employ blindfolds, earplugs, or hoods to limit the submissive’s senses, intensifying their vulnerability and reliance on the dominant.

Financial Domination

In consensual financial domination arrangements, the dominant may control the submissive’s finances, spending, or access to money as a display of power.

Body Worship Assignments

Assign the submissive tasks that involve serving, pampering, or pleasuring the dominant’s body, reinforcing the power dynamic.

Dominance through Service

Have the submissive perform household chores, run errands, or engage in other acts of service to cater to the dominant’s needs and desires.

Conclusion

Femdom roleplay can be a fulfilling and exciting way to explore power dynamics in a relationship. By prioritizing safety, consent, and communication, both partners can engage in an enriching experience that strengthens their bond and deepens their trust.

Remember, always put safety first and respect each other’s boundaries for a fulfilling and enjoyable femdom roleplay journey.

To get more BDSM Ideas, check The BIG List of BDSM Play.